I’ve been thinking a lot about neighborhoods.  The other week I caught the Mr. Roger’s documentary, and I believe his vision of the neighborhood was the most groundbreaking of all of his theological concepts put to mainstream children’s television.  Love your neighbor, get to know your neighbors, rely on your neighbors, accept a lot from […]

The generally accepted sensibility of our time is that men want to parent boys and women want to parent girls. However, various researchers have noticed a shift in that inclination in the last two decades. In a 2010 study, economists from three universities discovered that adoptive American parents preferred girls to boys by nearly a […]

The other day, a man I love told me about a men’s group meeting he had gone to, for the first time. It was a Bly group, he said, named after the great American poet, Robert Bly, who is also renowned for his work on men’s psychological and spiritual wholeness. My friend said there were […]

Toxic masculinity is like a suit of armor. You feel trapped within. You want to caress, but all you can do is crush. You want to be seen in your humanity, but no one can see you behind all the plate armor, yourself included. Today I want to take a closer look at the armor […]

It never starts with a finger-crushing handshake, which is how toxic masculinity is announced. It always starts in innocence. Sometimes it’s young boys who seek out rough-and-tumble play, and risk taking, and they aren’t into dolls but they do like gadgets. Other times it’s young boys who, for their birthday, ask for make-up and a My […]